I’ve finished my first year of college and I have been doing some deep reflecting. I think I’m finally ready to share.
College is hard, y’all. It can completely kick your butt up and down the street, while offering you coconut oil to do your twist out for the next day, just to do it all over again. A lot of people think their biggest struggle when coming to college will be the school work. Listen hunny, that’s probably one of the last things on your struggles list. College is a place where you are suddenly thrust into adulthood, while at the same time you’re still kind of seen as a child by the professors and actual adults of the city. So, you’re constantly in this balancing act, which can be incredibly overwhelming.
The best advice my eleventh grade history teacher told her students was brutal, but definitely necessary. At least once a week she’d pull in a struggling student, wrap her arm around them, push her short blonde hair out of her face, look them right in the eyes with her deep blue ones, and whisper “suck it up, cupcake.” Now at the time you’d think she was the worst thing to ever grace the planet, but looking back that was some of the best advice that one could ever hear. It reminds me that it could be worse, and that’s not to say that my struggles don’t matter, but instead to be thankful for the growth opportunities that these setbacks and tragic tumbles create. So, when I would wake up when there was about fifteen minutes left in my eight am class and spend that time thinking about how silly my loans would look without a degree to attach to it, I’d whisper those same words to myself. Or when I was out at a party having a blast, only to remember that I had an online assignment that was due thirty minutes ago, I’d scream those words letting it get lost in the loud music.
I’m learning that most of your experience and “lessons learned” will be found outside of the classroom. When you get out into the world on your own, its either sink or swim. Of course there will be those people that you can always call to get help, but it all falls back on you at the end of the day. You may look like a bottle bobbing up the river, the top disappearing into the water and then reappearing, but at least you’re trying not to drown. That bottle was me all year long, to be honest.
If you’re side eyeing me and wonder what you’re supposed to get from all of this, I don’t mean to be a downer on your excitement. I’d just like to be honest with you. So far, college has been one of my best experiences yet. That’s because I’m sucking it up actively making an effort to make it all that I want it to be. Making lemonade out of lemons, if you will (yes, Beyonce’s album did change my life).
If you’re a person entering college for the first time this fall, ask all the questions you have in the comments below. If you’re a person that is already a well-groomed college student, share your wisdom’s below by telling us some of the best advice you’ve got and/ or have been given.
Can’t wait to talk to y’all again next Friday lovies!