The other day, I was sitting at a table full of friends during lunch when I heard a male friend say to another, “Stop acting like a pussy.” Now, I generally hear this person say offensive things that I tend to just be quiet about because there is absolutely no winning with him. However, this particular time I actually said something, being that I was fed up with his constant sexist comments and jokes. I called him out on it, making him aware of how offensive and detrimental it was to the female population and compared it to phrases that habitually end with “…like a girl.” While he didn’t take my stance seriously because I was the only one to say something, it prompted me to make a long overdue public service announcement.
- The word PUSSY. First off, ew. Out of every word used to refer to a women’s body organ, this one is at the top of the list of no nos. It not only devalues the strength and purpose of vaginas, but it more importantly suggests that the only purpose for vaginas ever existing is sex.
- Having a vagina is not an insult. Females are not weak or fragile in any way, shape, or form; we are not overly emotional, we are not needy, and we certainly cannot be generalized and put into one category.
- If you do not have one, please do not make statements about one. We all want to have something to say, even when we don’t know anything about the actual subject at hand. This is a big problem that even I admit to having had to adjust; it is okay not to know everything. Sitting back and listening to what is being said and done is sometimes the best option for you in these situations. Males cannot make decisions or comments about a vagina because they typically do not have one.
- You do not determine what is offensive to me or any other vagina holder. In case you did not know, there is this thing called oppression and females have a history of being oppressed. You cannot tell someone that you’ve oppressed, that what they are describing to you actually doesn’t offend or affect them in a negative way.
Here are two facts for you: we are youth and sexism is taught. Therefore, we can stop it before it becomes a habit because we all know that habits die hard. Getting females, males, and everything in between to understand what is offensive and how to correct it by providing alternatives can change everything and establish equality.